It’s not worth being typical. When we want to discover our best friends, we must use original questions.
The psychologists have lots of tools to better understand the behavioral style of the person or personality type .
However, that does not mean that people outside the study of psychology can not have other ways of getting to know the people around them. In fact, there is a relatively affordable option to get to know more about the people around us. These are the questions you can ask to your best friends or colleagues as well.
Questions That Meet Someone Expectation
An open conversation between two people can serve a large number of objectives and functions: deception, cooperation, dissemination of concrete data and, of course, can also be a context in which we come into contact with the personality of our interlocutor and we believe our own hypotheses about him .
That’s why I propose 50 questions to get to know someone better and that you can use to create an atmosphere of confidence in a short time.
50 Formal Questions To Get To Know A Friend Better
Perhaps using these questions, we are committed to the scrupulousness and thoroughness of a practicing psychologist, but in addition to seeing how the other person reacts to certain phrases and questions, it will also help us to add an additional interest to our conversations and, in Many cases, we will make the other person sincere and open more to us.
It is a list that could be expanded to infinity, since the questions to know someone better can be as diverse as the human imagination is. Here I recommend a few, but of course you do not have to use all of them, since you would sin if you made the dialogue an interrogation. You can use the ones you choose in the order you want. Although, it is advisable to leave the conversation with most personal question for the end. In any case, I recommend that you enjoy the process of getting to know the other person.
1. Where would you like to live?
Posing this simple topic is a good way to know the tastes and priorities of people. You can modify this question to make it more specific ( “In which country would you like to live, in what city, etc.”) and in this way, you can see some aspects of the life that your interlocutor or interlocutor values more and some situations that he does not support.
2. Where would you spend your perfect vacation?
Combine this question with the previous one and you can see if there are contrasts between the aspects of the ideal environment in which he/she wish to live and the characteristics that must have a place in which she feels comfortable.
Knowing someone better implies not only knowing what that person asks the routine, but also how he/she likes to break it.
3. Can you describe me your bedroom?
The bedroom is one of the most private rooms in the home and where you spend more hours. That’s why it often reflects many aspects of people’s tastes and personality. For example, you can get an idea of whether you value your privacy more or less according to the barriers that exist between the interior of the bedroom and common places, or you can know the preferences and hobbies according to the decoration and objects that populate the space.
4. What historical person would you like to interview?
This question is useful to know better the philosophical concerns of the person, their interests and even their cultural background.
5. What kind of clothes would you not wear under any circumstances?
This question serves, among other things, to test the capacity of inventiveness and creativity of the other person. Since the possible answers are practically endless. In addition, it is a question that is a challenge and at the same time is casual, which adds interest to the conversation and serves to release tensions.
6. What are your three favorite bands?
There are some studies that point out that musical tastes are important in making a strong relationship with groups of friends, especially with the younger members.
This question serves to know the a best friend better and to know about their preferences in a subject that is difficult to deal with from rationality and solid arguments. On the other hand, it is more difficult to answer that “What kind of music do you listen to?” So that, you will insure yourself more than the other person is concerned with the dialogue.
7. What is freedom for you?
Through this question you will see the other person’s ability to deal with abstract subjects, not so connected with the day-to-day. On the other hand, if you have difficulty answering it or seem surprised by this question. It is possible that this person is not accustomed to touch philosophical issues closely.
8. What do you like the most about yourself?
The possible answers to this question are as diverse as varied is the type of information about the other person you can get with it. It is a way of glimpsing how the interlocutor values himself, whether he pays more or less attention to his physical or psychological attributes and, incidentally, you can know at first hand aspects that you did not know about his way of being or his mental abilities.
9. What is your favorite book?
Another question to get an idea about the cultural baggage of the neighbor and, incidentally, to know their literary tastes, something that never hurts. You will also know if you are accustomed to reading more or less regularly.
10. Do you often think about what happens to you and what you feel?
By stating this topic you will know if this person devotes more or less time to managing their emotions and to distance themselves from what is happening to analyze it coldly. Having this habit is usually associated with less impulsiveness and the habit of thinking about the consequences of things before doing them.
11. What superpower would you have?
Another casual question to relieve tensions and create a relaxed atmosphere between so much question that also boasts a little creativity.
12. Which four TV series are your favorites?
This is another of those questions to get to know someone better through the type of cultural products you consume. The answer to this question in itself is not the interesting thing, but the aspects of these series that the person says to value more, as well as the characters in which he seems to feel more identified and the reasons for it.
13. What three things do you most appreciate in a person?
It is best not to start by asking this question as it is quite personal. It can help you to know the values that the other person appreciates most .
14. How would you like to be in the future?
This is one of those questions to get to know someone better who will serve you to know the aspirations of this person, as well as some aspects of his self-concept.
15. If you were an animal, what would you be?
Another question to know about the self-image of your interlocutor, the characteristics that you consider more relevant and those that are not so much.
16. What song would sum up your personality? Why?
The essence of a person summarized with a piece of music. A difficult task, but not impossible, and that can serve to express certain qualities and aspects of their own through music. Something that can hardly be covered with conceptual categories!!
17. What four adjectives describe you best?
Like other questions that have already come out, this serves to get an idea about how the other person sees herself/himself and to know the characteristics that she considers more relevant or unusual.
18. What is the mood you least like?
This simple question can serve to know certain hobbies, concerns or situations that the other person usually tries to avoid. Very useful since, instead of talking about specific situations, we talk about the moods that trigger, subjective states of consciousness that can occur in very different contexts.
19. How would your friends describe you?
If other questions would be to know how this person sees herself, this serves to know how they see her as per her belief. Asking about your friendships can make your responses biased towards the positive, but in turn you reinforce the atmosphere of trust.
20. What three types of job would you like to practice?
With this question you can know more about the type of efforts and challenges towards which the other person’s tastes are oriented.
In the same way, it can be used to get an idea of whether they are given better tasks governed by fixed behavior patterns or those that leave more scope for creativity, or those that involve teamwork or solitary.
21. What skill would you like to perfect to become fully mastered?
It serves to know more about the likes of this person and, on the other hand, the type of challenges and projects that you would like to undertake .
22. If you could only keep five phone numbers of people outside your family, what would they be?
It is an indirect way of knowing more about the circle closest to this person. It can be used to find out if you have relatively old friendships or tend to lose contact with people and create new friendships constantly.
23. What kind of person would you be afraid of?
It’s better to know through this question to know the type of attitudes and personalities that your interlocutor tends to avoid in the people with whom he/she relates.
24. What is the most crazy thing you’ve done?
A classic, but not less useful. It serves to know to what extent the limits that frame the correct behavior are more or less present in the person who speaks with you.
25. What would be a good title for your autobiography?
Of course, the interesting thing about formulating this question is not the title that occurs to the interlocutor, but the conversation that arises from the answer. From this simple topic we can start a conversation in which we know the other person better from the way in which he explains his vision about his own life, the milestones that marked him in the past, and so on.
26. What do most people think of you and do not they?
This is one of the best questions to get to know a person, because it gives rise to the speaker or speaker talking about his characteristics that he considers more unknown and put examples that help to understand his point of view.
27. What would you have liked to start learning 5 years ago?
This question serves to get an idea about the vital projects that the other person values in the present. At the same time, it helps to understand what the priorities and goals that the same person had in the past.
28. What kind of people do you find especially attractive?
If we clarify this question by clarifying that we are not referring to something related to physical attraction, we will be able to recreate an approximate image about the personal characteristics that are most valued .
29. What characteristics do you like that are present in other people but not in you?
There is a difference between the ideal to which a person aspires and the characteristics that are valued a lot in other people. This is a question to know the person exploring just this difference.
30. On what topic would you like to be asked to get to know you better?
Self-image and self- esteem come out again, as in other questions to get to know someone better. Most likely, your partner will pull out topics that he or she understands to enhance the positive aspects of your person .
31. What kind of music do you like to dance to?
The type of dance that a person likes most and can give us an idea of their degree of introversion or extraversion. People who feel weak for types of dance performed in pairs or in groups will have a greater propensity to be extraverted. While introverts will either hesitate to ask (not being accustomed to dancing) or respond to musical genres that are not related with very complex forms of dancing, like rock.
32. If you saw a dog whose paw was trapped in a fence, what would you do? What if instead of a dog it was a lizard?
This double question serves to know the attitude of this person towards animals, whether domestic or not. The part where the lizard is named makes this one of the best questions to get to know someone about their attachments to life forms very different from human.
33. In what situations would you be willing or willing to lie?
A question to test the degree of honesty that is habitual in the person with whom we are speaking. Although anyone will try to give an image of itself better than it corresponds to reality, the answers to this question allow to compare between people.
34. What is your greatest irrational fear?
With this question you can explore the obsessions and fears of the other person. It is interesting to consider whether to response or the answers it gives have to do with material things, such as a type of animal or a specific situation, or with more abstract and general phenomena such as incomprehension, abuse of new technologies or Existential gaps.
35. In what way do you prefer to relate to people?
This is a very open question that allows us to explore the situations in which the interlocutor or interlocutor prefers to interact with others: in group or two-person hangouts, on the Internet, etc.
36. How would you define your type of sense of humor?
Humor is one of the most important characteristics of the human being, but it is not always expressed in the same way. There is black humor, absurd humor, slapstick … different ways to experience laughter. A question to get to know someone via their sense of humor (or lack thereof).
37. Where would you go to relax for a few days?
This question serves to know the idea that makes calm to the person who speaks with us.
38. And … Where would you go to live an adventure?
The opposite question to the previous one, to know what kind of exciting experiences attract the attention of the interlocutor or interlocutor.
39. What is the memory of your childhood that you have the most alive?
This question does not have to give us particularly valuable information about the personality of the person who was with us (unless we talk about a traumatic experience), but it can serve to create a relaxed atmosphere in which to ask more things and, By the way, to know things about the environment in which he was educated.
40. When did you realize that you had entered into adulthood?
A way to know the conception of the child and the adult that the other person has. Do you have a child mentality or matured more than would be advisable?
41. What do you miss more than your childhood?
Another question to know the child’s most innocent and innocent side (if you have one).
42. What kind of people make you the most pity?
It is a way of exploring the limits of the empathy of those who talk to us, although we must be able to recognize when a sincere answer is being given and when it is answered in an ironic way so as not to have to reveal this type of information.
43. What kind of people would you be ashamed to see?
A question to know the image that someone wants to give of itself, beyond the way in which it sees itself. It helps to know to what extent there is vanity in it .
44. Which 3 people inspire you the most?
This question not only allows to know the concerns and sensibilities of someone, but also their historical knowledge, which is never too much.
45. Do you consider yourself a superstitious person?
To know someone is also to know things about their way of thinking , and to believe in paranormal phenomena is something that talks about the way in which one conceives of reality and thinks about the way in which nature works.
46. Do you prefer short and simple stories or complicated and complex arguments?
You can always answer that both, but somehow helps to know the kind of stories and narratives that most catch someone’s attention.
47. Do you like to know what is happening in distant places, or do you only care about local?
One way of assessing the other person’s concerns and craving for information. Maybe we can know more about your worldview.
48. What fictional character do you most identify with?
A way to leave open the possibility that the interlocutor or speaker talk about his personality and his knowledge about works of fiction.
49. Which members of your family have you learned the most?
One of those questions to get to know someone within their family context and, in passing, their knowledge, skills and abilities.
50. Which member of your family is a better example for you?
A similar question to the previous one, although in this case it speaks of a facet of the different education: the role model that follows.
More Interesting Questions
If you can think of more, you can understand what kind of questions to ask to your best friend. Since as I said the listing could be practically infinite and sure that there are interesting proposals that have been left out.
100 Informal Best Friend Tag Questions:
1: Do you sleep with the doors open or closed?
2: Do you take away the shampoos and conditioners of hotels?
3: Do you sleep with your comforter folded in or out?
4: Have you ever stolen a street sign?
5: Do you like to use post-it?
6: You cut coupons, but then never use them?
7: Would you rather be attacked by a bear or a swarm of bees?
8: Do you have freckles?
9: Do you always smile for photos?
10: What is your biggest fear?
11: Have you counted your steps while you walked?
12: Have you ever peed in the forest?
13: What about coconut in the forest?
14: Do you dance, even if you do not have music?
15: Do you chew your pens and pencils?
16: How many people have you slept with this week?
17: How big is your bed?
18: What is the song of the week?
19: What do you think of men who wear pink?
20: Do you still watch cartoons?
21: What’s the movie you least like?
22: Where would you bury a hidden treasure, if you had any?
23: What do you drink with dinner?
24: What do you dive into a chicken nugget?
25: What is your favorite food?
26: What movies could you watch multiple times and continue to love?
27: Last person you kissed / kissed you?
28: Have you ever been a Boy Scout?
29: Would you pose naked in a magazine?
30: When was the last time you wrote a letter to someone on paper?
31: Can you change the oil of a car?
32: Have you got a ticket?
33: Have you ever run out of gas?
34: Favorite type of sandwich?
35: The best thing to eat for breakfast?
36: What is your bedtime?
37: Are you lazy?
38: When you were a child, what were you wearing for Halloween?
39: What is your Chinese astrological sign?
40: How many languages do you speak?
41: Do you have any magazine subscriptions?
42: Which are better, Lego or Lincoln Logs?
43: Are you stubborn?
44: Who is better … Leonardo DeCaprio Johnny Depp?
45: Have you ever seen any novels?
46: Are you afraid of heights?
47: Do you sing in the car?
48: Do you sing in the shower?
49: Do you dance in the car?
50: Have you ever used a gun?
51: The last time you had a portrait taken by a photographer?
52: Do you think musicals are cool?
Is Christmas stressful?
54: Have you ever eaten a Pierogi?
55: Favorite type of cake?
56: What did you want to be when you were a child?
57: Do you believe in ghosts?
58: Have you ever had a feeling of already experienced a present situation?
59: Do you take a daily vitamin?
60: Do you wear slippers?
61: Do you wear a bathrobe?
62: What do you use for bed?
63: First show?
64: Wal-Mart, Target and Kmart?
65: Nike or Adidas?
66: Cheetos or Fritters?
67: Peanuts or sunflower seeds?
68: Ever heard of the group of Three Good?
69: Have you ever taken dance lessons?
70: Is there a profession you imagine doing in your future?
71: Can you wrap your tongue?
72: Have you ever won a spelling bee?
73: Have you cried because you were happy?
74: Do you have any vinyl records?
75: And a phonograph?
76: Do you use incense regularly?
77: Have you ever fallen in love?
78: Who would you like to see at a show?
79: What was the last show you saw?
80: hot tea or cold tea?
81: Tea or coffee?
82: Sugar or sweetener?
83: Can you swim well?
84: Can you hold your breath without holding your nose?
85: Are you patient?
86: DJ or band, in a wedding?
87: Ever won a contest?
88: Have you ever had any plastic surgery?
89: What are the best olives, black or green?
90: Do you knit or crochet?
91: The Best Place for a Fireplace?
92. Have you ever traveled outside your country?
93: What places do you want to meet?
94: What was your favorite subject in high school?
95: Did you wait until you got things your way?
96: Do you have children?
97: Do you want to have kids?
98: What is your favorite color?
99: Do you miss anything from your childhood?
100: You make up .. DJ or band, at a wedding?